THis is for those of you who are annoyed/ dont like the colour of the highlight
EDIT: Adding pics ASAP
Step 1: RIght Click your desktop and select Personalize
Step 2: Select "Window Appearence and Color"
Step 3: scroll down and press "open classic appearence properties for more options" (you can close the control panel if you like now just keep the Appearence Settings window open)
Step 4: Select a theme (you can just change it back later...) and pressed advanced...
Step 5: click the TOP dropdown menu and press Selected Items.
Step 6: Change the colours as you see fit.
Step 7: change your theme back