Oh ffs WHY!?
Ok, after fixing my other problems...finaly i got everything running ok
my ascent.exe now says connected two realms one local one for other people
and logon.exe finds the same two realms and says ready to connect...
problem......when the realm list is changed to my own it goes connecting....
then after a few seconds unable to connect.
on my console it never shows that i have authenticated, anyone have any ideas why?